Quote of the Day: 3.19.13

"We're all seeking that special person who is right for us.

But if you've been through enough relationships, 

you begin to suspect there's no right person,

just different flavors of wrong.

Why is this?

Because you yourself are wrong in some way,

and you seek out partners who are wrong in some  complementary way.

But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own 'wrongness'.

And it isn't until you finally run up against your deepest demons,

your unsolvable problems - the ones that make you who you truly are,

that we're ready to find a lifelong mate.

Only then do you finally know what you're looking for.

You're looking for the wrong person.

But not just ANY wrong person: the right wrong person-

someone you lovingly gaze upon and think,

"This is the problem I want to have."

I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.

Let our scars fall in love."

-Galway Kinnell

That quote is so dead on.

"Just different flavors of wrong."

I love that.

I am adamant that I don't want 

to find someone who is 'perfect'.

How awful to try and live up to that,

when I am by no means perfect:

I am terribly stubborn.

I have OCD tendencies, that drive even ME nuts.

I am unapologetic about my faith,

which sometimes makes me seem "narrow-minded"

(sorry I'm not sorry)

I am unforgiving (I am working on this)

I have trust issues from previous hurts in my life.

I am a perfectionist - which is downright annoying

(to myself, and others)

I am terrible at returning phone calls, emails, texts

(sorry about this)

I never apologize, even when I know I'm wrong

(also working on this!)

the list goes on and on...

I just want someone who is imperfectly perfect too.

Someone who is the right kind of wrong.

Let our scars fall in love.

xo,

Rach

Beauty and the Beast,

a classic tale of 'the right kind of wrong.' :)